#79 Fake It Until You Make It

Good Morning!

So, you’ve made a lofty goal for yourself. Excellent!

You’ve taken some of the first steps towards achieving that goal by learning and practicing your craft.

This is awesome! Keep it up!

You know what to do and how to do it, but now you’re a having a hard time putting your newfound skills into action.

You’re lacking the confidence in your ability to perform.

You’ve compared yourself to people that already have a lot of experience doing what it is you want to do.

You think you aren’t good enough, or you’ll do crappy job, or you will have to suffer embarrassment.

I have some good news for you: All the things you’re thinking are true, but they’re also what you need in order to do the things you want to do like a pro.

All the people you’re comparing yourself to had to go through this experience too; no one gets left out.

It’s extremely rare that someone will be good at something new to them right off the hop, make very few mistakes or none at all, and don’t get embarrassed by something they may have overlooked or that they just don’t know about yet.

Everyone sucks at what their doing at first, so don’t be discouraged.

There is a an old saying you may have herd before:

“Fake it until you make it.”

Now, this saying doesn’t actually mean what most people think it means.

Here’s my interpretation: You don’t have to fake what you’re doing, or be deceptive, or even disingenuous. Doing these things is simply unethical and really shady.

What it simply means is that the only thing you have to fake is who you think you are, not who you actually are.

You have to think, act, and do like the person who you’ve envisioned and see in your minds eye until you are no longer acting anymore.

Some people call this a confidence trick because building confidence is exactly what this does.

You fake it by forcing yourself to do thing that feels out of place, strange, or even awkward in the moment, and when the awkward moment is over, you’ll have more confidence. 

The more times you perform these actions, the more confidence you’re going to get until a point where you are no longer acting at all, but are just you: Comfy as you are in your own skin, just doing your thing.

It’s really important that you don’t try to fake doing what you intend to actually do.

Be genuine and be humble. Ask for help when you need it because depending on the amount of knowledge and skill that’s required of the task you’re trying to fake and shouldn’t be, it’s going to be really evident to you and to everyone else that you’re just starting out and don’t know exactly what you’re doing yet.

This is totally OK.

Unless of course you’ve overpromoted yourself and are now underdelivering on your promises.  This is just a bad as being disingenuous and maybe even worse, because now people think you’re just incompetent, and you certainly don’t want that.

So, just visualize the person who you want to be.

Start thinking and acting like that person would.

Make decisions like you think they would.

And that’s it!

Thanks for reading!

Have a great day!

#78 Before I Start Writing Again

Good Morning!

Today has started much like other days.

Wake up.

Grab phone, check time, look at memes.

Chuckle.

Get out of bed.

Make a quick stop at the bathroom before completing the blurry-eyed yawn infused walk to the physical location that is the center of my morning routine: The Coffee Bar.

Make the coffee.

Sit down at the laptop.

Sip the coffee.

Watch a video or two about something interesting to wake the mind up.

Contemplate today’s schedule.

Gulp the coffee.

Create a new post.

Write some words about whatever comes to mind.

And here we are, in the present.

Today I’m writing about coffee, and writing this blog.

I tend to write about coffee a lot because I’m usually enjoying a mug worth while I’m writing; which reminds me: I need to make a second cup before I get down to the business of actually writing this piece I didn’t really intend on writing this morning. Funny how these things work themselves out sometimes.

One sec.

(I realize that there is no actual extended time pause for you the reader, so by all means, if you need to piss.)

……

Ok, so now that I have my second coffee in mug, let’s begin.

… Again.

It’s been awhile since I’ve sat down to write anything.

I’m not going to say I will start writing once a week, even though I want to. I want to promise that I will start writing daily again, but I can’t because writing is just like everything else in my life: it seems to have a season.

My writing season may very well be starting again with very words I am writing right now as the primer.

It’s just that writing kinda tends to just happen.

I’ll just get the feeling to sit down in front of the laptop and then *Poof*! Here’s an article about whatever I was thinking about.

It’s difficult to say with certainty because being interested in pretty much everything has some drawbacks, with the largest being focus.

I find it difficult at times to keep my mind from wandering away to something else more intriguing when the current project gets repetitive or tends to drag on.

I’m not talking about ADD or ADHD, but keeping focused on a longer or continual project which require many days, weeks, or even months.

And ultimately, that’s ok.

I have given myself the creative latitude to explore making all different kinds of content, bouncing back and forth between all of them.

What is common to all of them though, is writing!

I really do enjoy stringing words together and getting these thoughts of mine organized. Even making the picture for the blog post is fun!

It’s safe to say that most of the posts I’ve written are opinion pieces with a general intent of helping others in some way while relating it to my own personal experience somehow.

I think it’s fairly normal for people to want to help each other and I’m not any different. Being of service and helping others feels great!

Moreover, people like reading about the good deeds of others, and I intend on writing about these occurrences in the future along with all the other topics I’m interested in.

It’s quite possible that this upcoming season of the Good Morning Karsy blog might be the best one yet.

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If something I’ve written strikes a chord, please leave a comment and start a conversation!

If you know someone that might benefit from the info I’ve published, please share it with them.

Thanks for reading and have a great day!

#77 Chunk It Out

Good Morning!

When the task you’re working on seems too daunting, there is a handy thought processing and organizational planning tool you can use to complete your task without adding too much stress to your life.

It’s a short, sweet, easy to understand, and kind of awesome way of how to complete larger tasks with relative ease.

What you do is break down the task it in to its smaller “chunks” rather than trying to think about the entire process at once.

If you’ve ever taken music lessons this will be a familiar thing to you already. If you’re learning to play a new piece of music, you generally don’t practice the entire piece of music at once, you break it down in to smaller pieces called phrases and into even smaller pieces than that, called bars. You play these little chunks until you get good at each one and then move on to the next one, and so on, until you’re finished the entire piece.

The process of breaking down a huge task like cleaning an entire house from top to bottom is the same as learning to play a new piece of music.  Cleaning of the house is broken up into rooms, then then areas in each room, and then finally into the specific cleaning tasks themselves like, vacuuming, dusting, tidying and organizing, washing surfaces, drying, cleaning windows, etc.

So, the next you have a huge task to accomplish make a list of all the chunks you need to complete and then get started.

Thanks for reading (or listening) and have a great day!

#67 What Size Wire

Good Morning!

I got a question a couple days ago: “If I’m moving my battery to the trunk of the car, can I use the sub / amp cable as the positive lead ?  The previous owner had the car wired for subs but I need space for turbo things.”

To answer this question we need to figure out if the size of the wire that the previous owner of the car used for the stereo is adequate to run the entire electrical system of the vehicle.

Sizing the wire required for relocating the main battery in the car depends on how long the wire is, how much current is drawn from battery, and how much current your alternator will produce.

Testing the Current Requirement

What I usually recommend to do is to measure how much current is drawn from the battery after starting the engine 4 times in a row.   The repeated engine starts is to apply electrical stress to the battery and the starter so that the worst case current load the battery will typically experience under normal conditions can be measured.

You an use a current clamp meter to measure the current at the battery positive wire.  If you don’t have or have access to a clamp meter, you can get one on Amazon though this link. https://amzn.to/2KJkYAv

Testing the output of the alternator for maximum output is a bit more difficult because most OEM alternators are sized to output more than the vehicle requires at full load, so that even if you have everything turned on in the car, the alternator can still change the battery. 

What I typically do is use the rating of the alternator published by the manufacturer. In a standard passenger vehicle, this rating is normally less than the current drawn by the starter mentioned above.

We will use either the tested current at the battery or the current rating of the alternator, whichever is higher.

Calculating the Voltage Drop

Once we know what the current requirement is and the length of the wire, we can size the wire based on it’s voltage drop. The rule of thumb for sizing wires is to have less than 0.5V (3-4% of the total voltage) voltage drop over the length of the wire at the current we need to use it at.

The following page has a great a calculator you can use to calculate the voltage drop and an explanation of physics behind the calculations if you want to read up on it.  https://www.omnicalculator.com/physics/voltage-drop

For example, if your alternator is rated at 160 amps and you measured 200 amps at the battery, we will use 200 amps for the calculation. For a 200 Amp load and the length of the existing stereo wire in the car is 15 feet and is also 00 (2/0) AWG wire, then you’re good to go. If the existing stereo wire is only 4 AWG, then you’ll have to upgrade your wire size.

I hope that helps!

Have a great day!

#57 THEY WON!!!

Good Morning!

I can’t believe I woke up so late this morning.

Well, I understand why I did though, it’s because The Toronto Raptors won the NBA Championship last night and I watched the entire game!

It’s kind of a big deal.

It’s the first time that a Canadian NBA team has won the Championship.

I’m not a huge fan of basketball or any other sport for that matter, but out of all sports I do enjoy watching basketball the most. I think all those hours of playing NBA Jam on my Super Nintendo back in the day might have had something to do with that.

If you get a chance, catch the highlights. It was an awesome edge of the seat game.

Thanks for reading (or listening) and have a great day!

#55 Reading Faster

Good Morning!

On Monday I wrote about increasing the reading speed and linked to the free speed reading software, that trains you how to read in phrases at readspeeder.com.

The idea to reading in phrases is instead of reading single words you’re reading groups of words, much like you read groups of letters and not the individual letters themselves.

Reading in phrases allows you to read more visually, actually visualizing what your eyes are showing you.

Continue reading “#55 Reading Faster”

#49 Health Blog – Getting The Mind Right

Good Morning!

I’ve been writing about “getting my mind right” in the past couple health blogs. How we think about our bodies is just as important as how we treat our bodies, maybe even more.

How we think affects how we take action regarding certain things, so it makes sense that changing our thinking should be a huge part of any major change.

I’m reminded of the saying: “What you think about most tends to manifest.”

It has a lot to do with our perception of the world, and how we see things.

There is far too much information about our surroundings for our brains to process at any given time, so the brain prioritizes what we need to acknowledge moment to moment. If something isn’t deemed important, we don’t notice it right away.

For example, you buy a new car and are enjoying driving it, and then one day all of a sudden you seem to start noticing all of the other versions of your car popping up around you. They were always there; you just didn’t notice them before it was important to you.

Once your brain is programmed with what is important and what isn’t, making the choice more in line with what your goal is becomes much easier because the poor choices don’t get noticed first, as often.

So, the importance of how getting gains, burning fat, getting healthy, or however you want to frame it, needs to be programmed on this subconscious level.

The how, as in taking action, is the difficult part of the programming. Our brains are continuously being updated with what needs to be important to us.

The why, is what makes the how, important.

The why is what causes us to put the how into action.

Here’s the hack: The why has to be important already.

This is the process that unfolds naturally when someone’s why is to get healthier is so that they’ll have a better chance of living longer in and order to have the energy to provide for their children and/or to be there for their friends and loved ones.

The easiest way to make something important is to attach an emotion to it. How you feel about it. Emotions by their nature, are important.

We are emotional beings. Every choice we make can be in some form or another can be boiled down to how we feel about it or something attached to it.

Here’s a way to attach an emotion to a thing. We do this all the time without actually thinking about it already, but we can use this as a tool to rapidly change our thinking more in line with the goals we want to achieve.

Love and grief are the strongest of all emotions to use for this exercise. They are the easiest and most effective ones to use and the ones I will use for the following.

Pick up the food you want to eat that you know is bad for you and hold it in your hands. You can visualize the foods in your hands instead, but it works more effectively if you have physical contact with it.

Use the why you don’t want. Close your eyes and visualize the moment where the people you love in your life standing at the edge of your grave on a rainy day, crying and emotionally destroyed because you’re finally being lowered into the ground forever, because you died from a disease caused by something as stupid as the choice of food you put in your body.

When you visualize the why you want to avoid with as much detail as you possibly can, you’ll eventually be able to recall this so fast when you’re reaching for a box of sugary cereal that you know you shouldn’t be eating, you’ll pull your hand back so fast as if your hand were going to be crushed by it.

On the flip side of things, it’s good to reinforce the why of making better food choices for your body.

Pick up the food you want to eat that you know is good for you and hold it in your hands. As I mentioned above, you can visualize the foods in your hands instead, but it works more effectively if you have physical contact with it.

Use the why you do want. Visualize yourself far into the future surrounded by the people you love singing happy birthday to you. Feel the genuine joy and bliss that their song brings to you as you notice the reflection of the candlelight in their eyes from the two number eight candles stuck into the bowl of strawberries arranged so perfectly. It makes you smile and feel their love. Experience the feelings of thankfulness that you’re still able think clearly and can still move on your own two feet. Another exciting year of life to celebrate. Oh, the things you’ve seen and the love you’ve experienced with your long life.

What is your why?

Progress

I think this is why weigh-ins are typically done at the end of the week: I’m seeing a about a 2 lb fluctuation either side of 344 lbs. It seems like my body weight set point is right around 344 lbs, and has been for the past several weeks. The fluctuation could be attributed to a lot of things, but what makes most sense is water retention provoked by the inflammatory foods I’ve been eating. Inflammation and water retention go hand in hand. It’s neat to see on a day to day basis how the weight fluctuates. Data is king, after all.

At The Gym

I wasn’t feeling all that great for my training session yesterday, but I persevered and went anyways. My joints seemed to be clickity and I also had some knee pain so the trainer modified the routine to guard the knees.

After some stretching, here’s what we did:

  • TRX Bench Squat, 3 x 20, bodyweight to warm up.
  • 90° TRX Squat, 3 x 15, body weight + with 50 lb tension band placed just above the knee.
  • Straight Leg Cable Lifts, 3 x 15, 7.5 lbs.
  • Straight Leg Glute Rear Raise, 3 x 15, 10lb ankle weights.
  • Straight Leg Dead Lift, 3 x 12, 70 lbs.

The Next Meal

I picked up a deli chicken, a couple kg of carrots, and some more bacon. I still haven’t had the chance to slow cook those ribs, but I suspect that will be happening for dinner tonight.

I got hooked on Newman’s Own Mango Salsa. Seriously, it’s amazing.

I’m going to make a smoothie for lunch: banana cream pie and triple chocolate protein powder mixes, giant handful of spinach, and a couple tablespoons of peanut butter. This is incredibly satisfying. Keep a look out for the video.

Thanks for reading and have a great day!

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#33 Add This To Your Morning Routine For An Awesome Start

Good Morning!

I’ve written about the morning routine quite a bit already, and there is good reason for it.  Starting the day off in the right direction and setting yourself up for success sets the tone of the day.

I wrote previously about the 20-20-20 morning routine and you can read about that here.  Take an hour for yourself and well-being in the early hours to get your sweat on,  grow, and reflect.

I’m going to add one more thing that I feel is just as important as the others: laughter.

Being amused is a very powerful state for the mind and body.  Getting a good belly laugh in as the finishing touch to your morning will put you into a state where you’ll be in a better position to handle just about anything that life throws at you.

So many things happen in your body because of laughter.  Read about them here.

Watch a video, read a comic, listen to a podcast, tell a joke and then be told a joke, do something silly, anything!

Try it and let me know how it turns out for you.

Have a great day today!

-Karsy

#21 Making Your Bed Could Save The World

Good Morning!

Last night’s show was great! I had so much fun.  Catch the replay here.

The coffee needs to be strong this morning.  I woke up a bit late because the stream ran late, and I stayed up late making some highlights and going through the stream.  That makes the schedule a bit more erratic than I’d like, but it’s moving in the right direction.

As I was waking up this morning, I was tempted to not make my bed, but I remembered the super inspiring video I watched, a commencement speech given by Navy Admiral McRaven at the University of Texas, Austin in 2014.  The full video is here.

The part of the video I want to talk about is about the importance of making your bed and why I didn’t skip on it today. Watch it below.

Here is the transcript from that part of the speech.

“If you make your bed in the morning, you will have accomplished your first task of the day.

It will give you a small sense of pride, and will encourage you to complete another task, and another, and another

And by the end of the day that one task completed, will have turned into many tasks completed.

Making your bed also will reinforce the fact, that the little things in life matter.

If you can’t do the little things right, you’ll never be able to do the big things right.

And If by chance you have a miserable day, you’ll come home to a bed that is made, that you made.

And a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better.

So if you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.”

This is why I pulled the sheets and comforter up neat, arranged my pillows and made sure everything was tucked away behind the chest at the foot of my bed. 

It’s such a simple task and it really does set the tone of for the productivity of the day ahead.

If you want to get inspired, make sure you watch the full commencement speech here.

Have a great day!

-Karsy