#10 Be Unreasonable

Good Morning!

I have a couple other posts outlining the reasons why getting up early is good for you and this post has a few common threads.

I watched a really great episode of Impact Theory yesterday and was inspired to write about it and some of the topics they covered during their conversation.  If you haven’t seen any of Tom Bilyeu’s videos, you gotta check them out.

In this episode Tom had Robin Sharma on the show to talk about his new book: The 5am Club, Own Your Morning, Elevate Your Life.

Watch the video here.

The 5 takeaways I got from the video:

1 – Don’t forget that you’re able to do or be anything you want to be, just like when you were a child.

Robin quotes George Bernard Shaw by saying “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world. The unreasonable one persists in adapting the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”  You need to be unreasonable and unwilling to listen to others when they tell you you can’t do it or you’re not smart or talented enough to get what you want. 

Most people won’t just drop everything in the lives one day and decide they want to be an astronaut or a pro football player. You can do 90% of what those people do just by training to become one, because training is what takes up the most time of any top-level profession you can think of. By training, you’ll be experiencing many of the same things that the astronaut or footballer will be experiencing in their careers.

Be unreasonable in your thinking and just start doing the things you need to do to achieve whatever goal it is you want to achieve. Below are some tools you can use.

2 – If you want to have an impact on the world, you have to take care of yourself.

Robin calls this the ‘The Four Interior Empires’ transformational model: Mindset, Heartset, Healthset, and Soulset.

Mindset

Is a system of psychologies that most of the personal development industry is focused on. As I’ve herd Sean Croxton say over and over again years ago “You gotta get your mind right.” 

Your mindset, how you perceive and think about everything is what motivates and gets you to plan and take action, or not.  

How Tony Robbins says “you have to get yourself in to state” to think and act and perceive what you’re going through differently than you had previously.  If you want to make the most out of a bad situation, you have to change your point of view.

I’m reminded of a quote that resonates with me from the movie Apollo 13 that I try to apply to nearly all of less than optimal situations I find myself in that are in need of creativity, critical thinking when troubleshooting:  Gene Kranz says to a room full of engineers with a really negative and hopeless outlook on the situation “What to do we have that’s good?”.  This totally ‘reframes’ the conversation to a directed and more positive goal focused outcome.

Heartset

We need to take stock of our emotions.   As emotional beings we are made to feel and use  the feelings we have.  We aren’t meant to keep things bottled up all the time. This is where we have to deal with the pain and sadness and trauma of the past that we still might be carrying with us.

Nothing is more expensive than losing your joy and peace of mind.  You could have everything you’ve ever wanted, but if all you’re doing is thinking about or dealing with is pain from the past, you can’t be in the present moment to do the things you need to do to help others or bring joy into your life. You can’t concentrate on things that matter in the present if you’re thinking about the past or the ‘what-ifs’ of the future.

Journaling is very powerful tool to have in the heartset toolbox. Writing down our previous day’s experiences, deconstructing them by reliving them, asking questions about things we remember, and reflecting upon them will create deeper understanding and meaning to the experiences we have and make them all the more precious and meaningful to us.

Being curious, striving for more information, wanting to figure out how things work and why, are traits of every leader in every industry and field of study. It’s what drives us to be insanely awesome humans.

Healthset

“If you want to change the world, don’t die.” Try to live as long as you can by use of biohacking, getting a good night’s rest, etc.

In a world full of distractions, we need to take full advantage of the early morning when everyone else is still sleeping to get ready and plan the day.  Robin calls this ‘The Holy Hour’.

Every legendary being that has ever roamed the earth knows this.  To perform at the highest level, you have to practice everything.

The 20-20-20 is an hour long practice routine with 3 main things:

  • 5:00am to 5:20am – Get your sweat on. High intensity exercise.
  • 5:20am to 5:40am – Journal, meditate, visualize, plan your day, think and reflect.
  • 5:40am to 6:00am – Grow by consuming something inspiring like a book, video, or podcast.

Soulset

“It’s about working on your character so you re-access your nobility and your bravery and your authenticity and your decency and you find a cause that’s larger than your life.” This is some powerful stuff. This quote resonated with me such that some emotions were forced to surface. Sometimes I feel that I have taken so much and now have a lot offer, I haven’t taken enough initiative to give back. Here is a link to the quote. https://youtu.be/i3_HQIUoM6E?t=830

3 – To do your best work, you have to get into your ‘flow’ state.

The best minds in the world did their best work in seclusion, locked in a room or in an inspiring place with their team. Go to physical place where you can get yourself into ‘flow state’, where you can zone-in to what you do best.  If you don’t have a place, create one or go exploring. Find your happy place.

4 – Know when and when not to be patient.

Be very patient with children, with your team, and all of the people that serve you in your day to day life.

Be massively impatient in serving and bringing value to others.  Don’t wait one second to help or do good in someone else’s life.  The world would truly be a better place if this was a core value for everyone.

5 – Don’t break promises.

Not only do we let down the people we make promises to when we break them, the next part is a direct quote from Robin, “We lose self-respect from the promises we make to ourselves that we break. Its so important.”  I know I’ve been the guy that over promises and under-delivers before.  As time goes on I’m more mindful of the promises I make, giving serious weight to the decision to promise, or say I’m going to do something.  If I’m going to tell anyone I’m going to do something, then it MUST be done.

Final Thoughts

There was a lot of information in this one video. So many great points about personal development and dealing with fear and pain and tools we can use for peak performance.  There is a lot more in the video that I didn’t write about and I would assume much, much more in Robin Sharma’s book “The 5am Club, Own Your Morning, Elevate Your Life”.  If you’re interested, pick up a copy for your self, it’s on my list for sure.

Please share this article and video with anyone who you think may find any of this information useful.  Sometimes we don’t know what to do or how to start when we’re feeling the blahs. I know I don’t, and I’m thankful for videos and articles just like these that help bring focus to some of my thoughts and emotions and empower me to keep improving.

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Thanks again for reading and have a great day!

-Karsy

#9 Mornin’ Folks!


Mornin’.

We learn at a very young age that nearly all interaction starts with a greeting when we’re told to “Say hello to $name”.

Besides, it feels good to be acknowledged by the people around you at any time of day, but ‘good morning’ seems to be the standard salutation at the start of the day.

Every time I say ‘good morning’ to someone not in reply, I am reminded about the time when I said this to a colleague and they replied “It sure is a morning”, in a not so awake manner implying that it wasn’t a ‘good’ morning at all.

I forget sometimes that not everyone is well rested, might have stressful stuff going on in their lives, or are simply not morning people dealing with the struggle.

I try to be chipper as possible I can so that I get myself into right state regardless of how I am actually feeling in an effort to concentrate the best I can on the day’s tasks. Sometimes this has negative effects. Being happy all the time is not a social normal; and that’s sad, but very true.

I decided to be a bit more sensitive to this because starting the day off in the right state echos into the rest of the day, and I don’t want to be the guy that’s resented for being overly happy to be just at work and having a negative impact on someone else’s day. A double edged sword, so to speak.

So now instead of saying ‘good morning’ in a work setting or when the other person’s body language would indicate that they are not ‘good’, I use the ambiguous ‘Mornin’ as a statement or as a reply, as it seems to be received better.

Have you ever thought about this before? What do you normally say?

-Karsy

#8 A Thankful Morning

Good Morning!

I woke up with breakfast on my mind today.  Not a rare occurrence at all and because yesterday was a fasting day, I also have a healthy appetite. 

In my opinion, the standard American breakfast is the best kind of meal there is.

For me that’s eggs over easy, bacon, some kind of potato, buttered toast for yolk dipping, and of course coffee. Sometimes pancakes or waffles too, but not today.

When there is bacon on my plate, the meal begins and ends with the bacon.  It’s an unconscious ritual of sorts. Today there was two pieces of bacon, so it worked out well. 

About 5 seconds into chewing the first bite, I felt the forming of goose bumps on my arms and then wave of happiness, contentment, and nourishment wash over me; no doubt the feeling was my body getting ready for digestion. I was compelled to voice aloud what I was thinking in the moment.

“Thank you for abundance”.

There is a point where sometimes you just have to thank the universe, god, science, luck, or whatever else it is that you have might have faith in, for what you have.

Most of us that live in industrialized nations take the abundance of everything we have for granted only because abundance is what is normal to us. I am so thankful that this is what I know as normal.

I’m sure that anyone that’s reading this that I’ve worked with in the past will agree that I annoyingly say thank you too much at times. “You don’t have to say thank you for everything all the time”, is what’s been said to me in the past.

But I do.  Being thankful is my default mode, a habit instilled in me a long time ago.

It’s important to be thankful and to express it in a genuine manner.

And besides, gratitude feels really good.

In the spirit of Gratitude I want to say thank you, to you, The Reader.

Thank you for following me, sharing my writing with your friends and family. For your private messages with constructive criticism, encouragement, and support. 

Without you, I don’t have any reason to write.

As always, thank you for reading and have a great day!

-Karsy

The Decision Series – #1 Am I Making A Good Decision?

I ask myself this question a lot to make sure that what I’m doing is still in line with whatever my goal is.  Straying from the plan is sadly one of the things I have to deal with on a near constant basis; the downfall of an overactive curious mind.  There always seems to be something more fun or more interesting to do other than what I’m trying to focus on in the moment, but this is another topic altogether.  So, it can never hurt to double check to stay on track.  Measure twice, cut once right?

Or so I thought.  One day I was planning out my day and I questioned this little mantra to its’ root by continuously asking why, like a child does.

Oh boy, here we go.

Now, let me preface by saying that I am truly fascinated with how we make decisions and a lot of the time baffled by it, as in: ‘how did I get the point where I thought that this would be a good decision?’. Sometimes I’m not sure why I make the decisions I make, seemingly unconsciously, and a lot of these decisions shouldn’t be made without serious consideration.

It really does seem like a simple topic at first because it’s just one of those things that makes us human: we have the ability to weigh some of the internal and external forces that influence our decisions and not merely act on instinct.

The wormhole of questions began. What makes a decision good or bad? Why does a decision have to be good or bad? What actually is a decision on a fundamental level? What are the factors that influence a decision? What are the implications of just asking the question “Am I making a good decision” have? We have lots of choices to make, some of them really simple and yet they’re difficult: but why!? Each of these questions unpacks more questions, not to mention the countless external forces that influence our decisions that we may not have any control over. 

I could reflect on these types of questions for the rest of my life. At this point I needed to get more information to help me answer and understand the questions I was asking.

I searched for more information and came across the book titled “The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less”, By Barry Schwartz.  This book is just what I needed to understand the decision-making process better while not investing a career worth of time to understand it.

He’s given a TED Talk outlining some of the ideas he writes about in his book.

After watching a bunch of videos and reading most of Barry’s book, this topic ended up being a huge amount of information to digest and reproduce into one simple blog post, so what I’ve done is broken it down into a set of posts called “The Decision Series”.   The next few posts I will be writing about the various points he makes in his book, some of which he covers in the lecture.

He explains that the official dogma of all western and industrial society is to maximize the welfare of the people by maximizing the amount of choices the people have.  When people have more freedom to choose what they want more often they feel more in control of their own lives and are generally happier. Or simply put: more freedom of choice =  more autonomy = more happiness.

But it’s not that simple.

There are negative effects when we are presented with too many choices in any given situation.

It paradoxically creates choice paralysis in some of us – Sometimes we can’t choose anything at all. For example, you went to the grocery for salad dressing because you’ve been craving salad all day, but couldn’t pick one out all the choices available so you changed the side-dish to green beans and butter instead.

Opportunity Costs – It is easy to be less satisfied with your choice when there is a large number of alternatives with attractive features that you could have chosen. Should have ordered the AutoPilot and Full Self-Driving for the Tesla Model 3.

The escalation of expectations – When expectations  are high, the only thing that will make us happy, is perfection. Barry explains in his example of shopping for a new pair of jeans, his new pair of jeans were the most comfortable out of any jeans he had ever purchased before, but he still found himself unsatisfied at the end of the purchase experience because after trying on every style in the store, there still wasn’t a pair that fit him perfectly. Because of the amount of choices he had been presented with, a perfect fit was expected.

Fewer choices. Ignorance is bliss. The key to happiness is low expectations. There is definitely some food for thought here.

So what is “Am I making a good decision” all about then? This saying that I use to keep myself on track at times has a deeper rooted meaning to it. I want to explore and write about these deeper meanings. The good or bad part I think is a matter of perspective and depends, but not entirely upon, whether or not I am a Maximizer or Satisficer. These are descriptors for people who tend to fully maximize every decision they make (Maximizer) or maximize the best they can within the set of guidelines they’ve made for themselves (Satisficer). This is what I’m going to write about in the next installment of The Decision Series.

Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoyed this post.

Have an awesome day!

-Karsy

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#7 All Of Those Moments Will Be Lost In Time Like Tears In The Rain

Good Morning!

Yes, this post is about Blade Runner, and this post is also a giant spoiler, so if you’re planning on watching it, don’t read this post yet.

This past weekend I watched Blade Runner again.  I wanted to watch it alone and uninterrupted, to study the dialogue to make sure I didn’t miss anything the first time.

A few years ago was the first time I watched this movie. It was released in theatres when I was about a year old or so.  What’s kinda funny is, I’ve listened to the song “Tears In The Rain” by Vangelis, hundreds of times before I sat down and watched the movie. I didn’t know where the quote at the beginning of the song was from. I figured it was just a standard sci-fi movie quote that was typically included in older electronic songs, not one of the most profound film quotes of all time.

Here is the scene.

“I’ve seen things you people wouldn’t believe. Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Orion.  I’ve watch c-beams, glitter in the dark near the Tannhäuser Gate.  All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in the rain. Time to Die.”

Roy Batty, Blade Runner

I instantly recognized the quote the moment the music started.

It’s not fair to be given such a short life, only to live in fear as a slave.  All Roy wanted was to not die and he did everything he could to get the answers he needed, even if being the villain was necessary. It didn’t matter in the end; a longer life wasn’t possible.  I felt sorry for him.

When I grasped the gravity of the quote,  I filled with emotion.  My feelings certainly echoed that of Roy: sadness, failure, being cheated, and a bit of anger,  that there wasn’t more, and that life is coming to an end.  I don’t think I’m alone in saying that this is probably how I’d feel if my life ends up being shorter than I expect it to be. There would be still so much to do and learn and see.  It’s kind of mind-bending isn’t it? Contemplating one’s own existence.

It’s difficult to accept the things we can’t change or have no control over. We only get one life and we only get a short amount of time in it.  How do we make meaning of it all?  How do each of us matter at all in the grand scheme of the universe and everything?  Maybe we shouldn’t try to understand it?

As time carries on, our existence will eventually fade into nothingness and no one will remember who we were.

The concept of time is so strange. It’s relentless and unforgiving and only moves in one direction. 

What matters is who and where we are in the present. 

All we can do is be good to the people in our lives, try to make some sort of lasting impression, and create memories together so those who live on can tell our stories.

What are the experiences that stand out in your own life?  What do you want other people to remember about you? Does any of it really matter anyways?

Our own unbelievable experiences and memories die with us. We are so significant and yet so insignificant at the same time.

– Karsy

Tears In The Rain – Vangelis

#6 Sometimes It’s Just Not Worth It

Good Morning!

We’ve all been in a situation that brings us to question whether or not what we are putting ourselves through is worth it.

Just this past year I decided that I had been sufficiently stressed to the point of exhaustion where my mental and physical health had deteriorated, and the project I was working on simply wasn’t worth it anymore. 

To be more specific: the amount of money I had to trade for my time was insufficient due to the amount of stress it caused.  So I walked away from the job site and never looked back.

Was walking away the best solution? Maybe not long term, but it was the best decision I’ve made for my well being in a very long time, perhaps even all time.

If you’re constantly stressed out, maybe it’s time to ask yourself: Is it worth all the stress that I am putting myself through right now?  Is there a better way?

I wish I knew this earlier. 

I came across a great assessment method while I was flipping through Reddit comments awhile back; the gold is always in the comments. 

This method is called The Seven 7’s.

When you feel like you need to react to a situation and you need to think about what you’re going to do next, say to yourself:

“Is __________ going to matter in 7 seconds? 7 minutes? 7 hours? 7 days? 7 weeks? 7 months? 7 years?”

Fill in the blank with something like what’s happening right now; what he/she said; my actions; how I’m going to feel about what I want to do right now in the moment; if I don’t do this, is it; etc.

If you made it to 7 years, it’s probably never going to matter.

Obviously, every situation is different and will have a varying degree of severity in what you need to do, but this thought process allows you the time to apply priority so you can react in the appropriate amount of time, or not at all.

Thinking about my decision to quit this past year was an immediate need to remove myself from the stress of situation. I made the 7 seconds mark, but I wouldn’t make the 7 minutes and definitely not 7 hours. If I think I could have made it to the 7-day mark, I’d have a totally different life right now, or maybe not one at all.

What most of us don’t realize is that the “stress” that the doctor tells us we need to manage, is not just from work, home, or elsewhere, its from ALL of the stressors in our lives.

There are so many different kinds of stress: the shitty thing we say to ourselves on the inside like “why’d you do that, you dummy” or  “why bother, you don’t have any chance making that shot”; physical stress like over-training in the gym; relationship problems; making your child support payments; caring for a sick loved one; dealing with a shitty work place environment or shitty boss; the food you eat; a disease; the list goes on. Mental, emotional, physical: they’re all in the same bucket.

So sometimes it’s just not worth it.

How do we cope?

We all need to learn to pick our battles, when walk away or remove ourselves from the stress entirely, and abruptly if necessary.

We all cope with stress in different ways: Some are passive like taking a nap and listening to music, some are productive like drawing or welding or hitting the gym, and some are destructive like binging on food or alcohol or using hard drugs.

In the past, I dealt with my stress by filling my face. It turns out that wasn’t really taking away any stress. All the food did was shift my focus to how tasty it was for enough time to send me to slumber-land.  Yep, years in a cycle of destruction. Now I make blog posts.

This video is a different take on how we can manage the stress in our lives. How To Make Stress Your Friend by Kelly McGonigal.

“What we know for certain is that chasing meaning is better for your health than trying to avoid discomfort. So I would say that’s really the best way to make decisions. Go after what it is that creates meaning in your life and then trust yourself to handle the stress that follows.”

Kelly McGonigal

There are hundreds of videos on YouTube when you search for Stress Management. This link will take you there.

That’s all for this post.

Thanks for reading. I hope you got something from it.  Please leave a comment if you want to. If you like what you’ve read here and want to get these posts sent to your email, please feel free to subscribe.

Have a great day!

– Karsy

#5 Why Did You Take The Lawnmower Apart?

Good Morning!

It was before I got my Gameboy, so that would’ve made me 7 or 8 years old.  

Dad got us swinging a hammer and turning a wrench at a pretty young age.  He nailed a board to our deck that my brothers and I got to practice our sawing and hammering skills on.  Sawing off a small chunk of the board and driving in, what now looks like hundreds of nails. That board is still there.

I don’t remember ever not being interested in activities that involved tools. Whenever my Dad and my Uncle were doing repairs to the house, the business, the cars or whatever else, I always got a chance to see what they were working on and sometimes pass the wrenches and turn some screwdrivers.

I even got to watch and assist my Dad extensively repair a lawnmower he purchased at a yard sale.  I remember being super excited that I was able to be there and watch and help out however I could.

Some time later while exploring the sheds in our back yard, I came across another yard sale special lawnmower and out of nowhere get the bright idea that I could fix this one, just like I helped my Dad before.  I don’t actually know what’s wrong with it, but I assume it needs to be taken apart. So I drug it out of the shed, got the tool boxes with all my dads tools out and got to work.

Taking things apart is so much fun, especially when you haven’t done it before. 

Just about the time I had that mower stripped down in to all of its little pieces, my Dad walks up and sees me sitting on the ground with all of the inner-workings of the lawnmower and just about every tool he owns strewn about. Some on the ground, some on a tarp, some on the grass.  I’m covered in oil and grease and grass clippings, innocently looking up and as  proud as ever.

“Why did you take the lawnmower apart? he says.

This is the moment I knew that I had done something I wasn’t supposed to. I’m pretty sure he asked about the location of all his tools, genuinely concerned with their condition. Looking back on this event as an adult, I can only surmise that my Dad was upset because his tools were everywhere, not because I took apart the lawnmower. He might have even been amazed at what I did at the time. I dunno.

Kids will do stuff because they’re curious, and excited, and to prove they can do things too.

So why did I take the lawnmower apart?  Was it because I thought I could fix it like I saw my Dad fix the other one?  I think I took it apart because I was curious and because it was fun.

That was the year I got a mechano set for Christmas.

What were you curious about when you were a kid?  Did you have any fun disassembling any appliances like I did? Are you still a curious person?

Have a great day!

– Karsy

#4 One In The Hand Is Better Than Two In The Bush

Good Morning!

The original saying is “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”.

Why risk getting two when you already have one.

Maybe you have something already, but you want a larger quantity of it or maybe you want to get an even better one and are willing to lose or lose the value of the one you have to get it. Like trading in a car you haven’t fully paid for, for a new one.

This thought process plagues me sometimes. 

The want, dare I say need, to upgrade things.  

Do I need a larger tv? Nope. Do I need a nicer/bigger/faster car? Nawh.

But do I want these things? Hell yeah I do and I’m pretty sure everyone else does too.

Being a good consumer that likes to work hard and contribute to society, I have succumb to these selfish desires many times in the past; like the larger tv and car previously mentioned above.

If I had to justify my decisions, I’d say that I’ve worked for my money and deserve to spend it on whatever I want.

But at the end of the day, it’s all just stuff. Everything we use is means to an end.

I can consume media on my laptop or my phone and a car is transportation.

On the other end of the spectrum, everything that can be purchased can be made bespoke and made into a status symbol, like a $80000 Sony projector or a $733000 Rolls Royce, and all because people want the best stuff.

It depends on what you need, what you want, and what suits you.

When the stuff we have is paid for (one in the hand), is in good condition, is in good working order, and is also old and boring, the new, shiny, big, flashy, feature packed thing (two in the bush) is more tantalizing than we can sometimes take.  We must have it!

But when is enough, enough?

I think it’s just in our nature to want the bigger badder better shinier things.

Some advice from minimalism movement would say to box up everything you own, unpack what you use over 30 day period, sell or donate what’s left in the boxes, use what you have until you need a new one, replace and recycle.  Check out this video of Ryan Nicodemus and Joshua Fields Millburn giving a TED talk about minimalism.

It’s difficult way of thinking and their plan works for some people, but letting go of stuff that you’ve worked really hard for is very difficult. Have you seen the show hoarders?

I do a lot of travelling for work and it’s easy to figure out which things I like use a lot when I’m at home, when I’m not able to do the things I need to, how I want to. Like having a sharp kitchen knife and cutting board for example. I wish I had my knife and cutting board with me so many times, frustratingly using a shitty serrated steak knife to cut up some carrots.

I won’t get into the irony of now wanting to buy another kitchen knife and cutting board to keep in the car.

Maybe I just have to take the one I have with me like I do with my blender and espresso maker.

What is the one thing that you have and just want a better one or maybe even more of the one thing?  How do you deal with the urge to spurge? Would you do the minimalism exercise?

Have a great day!

– Karsy

#3 The Early Bird Gets The Worm

Good Morning!

In a modern world that is first come first serve, it sure is nice to get the first pick of things sometimes, and if you get up early enough and prepared enough, you usually can.

Like the parking space you want, or the freshest bakery or produce items, or maybe seat selection on an airplane or the hotel room you stayed in last time that you really liked.  

I like getting to drive without all of the traffic.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been more of a night owl than an early riser, and as of late even more so. The struggle is real. 

But when I’m focused and need to get work done, waking up early is not even an option, It’s a must! It’s law!  This means that going to sleep earlier is also law.

Sleeping 9-5, kicking ass 10-6 is my ideal schedule.  It allows me to get prepared the best I can for the day ahead.

Getting prepared for the day ahead is critical for being successful in whatever you do.

When everyone is still sleeping you’ve already got your workout in, walked the dog, had a coffee (or two), showered up, planned out your day, watched/listened to some motivational and inspirational videos and maybe some Rogan podcasts, and are already kicking ass.

This is being prepared.  

Now you have a head start on being first.

Check out this awesome video by a guy named Jocko Willink, maybe you’ve herd of him? ;)  He’ll tell you why you need to get up early and get to it.

Take a few minutes and ask yourself if you’ve ever done this on purpose? When was the last time you woke up early, got prepared and ‘killed it’ that day? Do you remember how that felt?  Did anyone notice?

Write it down. Remember it. Do it.

Have a great day!

– Karsy

#2 Go Outside and Eat Worms

Good Morning!

When I was a kid, my Dad said this to me when I was an insufferable little shit not getting my own way.

So, to elaborate on the title of this post: “this is how it’s going to be and if you don’t like it, go outside and eat worms.”

Thankfully, I was introduced to this at a young age.

Coping with things beyond our control that may not be fair is a life skill that a lot of adults still don’t have, and to be honest, I’m still working on it myself.

It’s hard to just sit there and stew sometimes when things just don’t go the way you expected them to.

Some situations are much easier to accept than others and when bad situations get worse, it takes a quite a bit of emotional muscle to find the humor in it.

There are so many things that can happen that are way beyond our control that we just have to live with, at least in the moment.

Sometimes people will just change their minds or sometimes we will have a way different set of expectations of whatever situation we’re in.

This is a huge deal to a child. Which is why we’ve all seen a 4 year old have a melt down over something as simple as food choices. “I was expecting peanut butter but got an apple instead”, open flood gates.

It’s still kind of a big deal as an adult too, especially if we think its not fair. 

This video puts how life isn’t fair into perspective.

Here is another example: Being sold a car as new with a damaged finish on the wheels that you weren’t told about and that you didn’t notice when you picked it up. Subsequently then told by the dealer that there is nothing the they can do but offer you ‘cost’ pricing on a new set of wheels. – Thanks, but no. I guess I’ll just have to live with my own mistake of not thoroughly checking and documenting every single piece of my brand-new vehicle that I assumed was in ‘perfect condition’.

Yep, that ruined the dealer experience, but it didn’t ruin the car.

It wasn’t fair.

Take a moment to think of a time when you had to just sit there and stew in your situation because it was beyond your control. How did you deal with it at the time? Could you have done anything differently? Did it work out in the end? Was it actually as big of deal you remember it being at the time?

I’ve eaten my share of worms, and as foul as they tasted, I had to learn, but sometimes I didn’t and that’s ok.

– Karsy