#79 Fake It Until You Make It

Good Morning!

So, you’ve made a lofty goal for yourself. Excellent!

You’ve taken some of the first steps towards achieving that goal by learning and practicing your craft.

This is awesome! Keep it up!

You know what to do and how to do it, but now you’re a having a hard time putting your newfound skills into action.

You’re lacking the confidence in your ability to perform.

You’ve compared yourself to people that already have a lot of experience doing what it is you want to do.

You think you aren’t good enough, or you’ll do crappy job, or you will have to suffer embarrassment.

I have some good news for you: All the things you’re thinking are true, but they’re also what you need in order to do the things you want to do like a pro.

All the people you’re comparing yourself to had to go through this experience too; no one gets left out.

It’s extremely rare that someone will be good at something new to them right off the hop, make very few mistakes or none at all, and don’t get embarrassed by something they may have overlooked or that they just don’t know about yet.

Everyone sucks at what their doing at first, so don’t be discouraged.

There is a an old saying you may have herd before:

“Fake it until you make it.”

Now, this saying doesn’t actually mean what most people think it means.

Here’s my interpretation: You don’t have to fake what you’re doing, or be deceptive, or even disingenuous. Doing these things is simply unethical and really shady.

What it simply means is that the only thing you have to fake is who you think you are, not who you actually are.

You have to think, act, and do like the person who you’ve envisioned and see in your minds eye until you are no longer acting anymore.

Some people call this a confidence trick because building confidence is exactly what this does.

You fake it by forcing yourself to do thing that feels out of place, strange, or even awkward in the moment, and when the awkward moment is over, you’ll have more confidence. 

The more times you perform these actions, the more confidence you’re going to get until a point where you are no longer acting at all, but are just you: Comfy as you are in your own skin, just doing your thing.

It’s really important that you don’t try to fake doing what you intend to actually do.

Be genuine and be humble. Ask for help when you need it because depending on the amount of knowledge and skill that’s required of the task you’re trying to fake and shouldn’t be, it’s going to be really evident to you and to everyone else that you’re just starting out and don’t know exactly what you’re doing yet.

This is totally OK.

Unless of course you’ve overpromoted yourself and are now underdelivering on your promises.  This is just a bad as being disingenuous and maybe even worse, because now people think you’re just incompetent, and you certainly don’t want that.

So, just visualize the person who you want to be.

Start thinking and acting like that person would.

Make decisions like you think they would.

And that’s it!

Thanks for reading!

Have a great day!

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Author: Karsy

Your average writer, maker, robot programming, gaming, tig welding, foodie, car jock, who loves to travel and is obsessed with coffee and lifting heavy things. Cheers!