When I was a kid, my Dad said this to me when I was an insufferable little shit not getting my own way.
So, to elaborate on the title of this post: “this is how it’s going to be and if you don’t like it, go outside and eat worms.”
Thankfully, I was introduced to this at a young age.
Coping with things beyond our control that may not be fair is a life skill that a lot of adults still don’t have, and to be honest, I’m still working on it myself.
It’s hard to just sit there and stew sometimes when things just don’t go the way you expected them to.
Some situations are much easier to accept than others and when bad situations get worse, it takes a quite a bit of emotional muscle to find the humor in it.
There are so many things that can happen that are way beyond our control that we just have to live with, at least in the moment.
Sometimes people will just change their minds or sometimes we will have a way different set of expectations of whatever situation we’re in.
This is a huge deal to a child. Which is why we’ve all seen a 4 year old have a melt down over something as simple as food choices. “I was expecting peanut butter but got an apple instead”, open flood gates.
It’s still kind of a big deal as an adult too, especially if we think its not fair.
This video puts how life isn’t fair into perspective.
Here is another example: Being sold a car as new with a damaged finish on the wheels that you weren’t told about and that you didn’t notice when you picked it up. Subsequently then told by the dealer that there is nothing the they can do but offer you ‘cost’ pricing on a new set of wheels. – Thanks, but no. I guess I’ll just have to live with my own mistake of not thoroughly checking and documenting every single piece of my brand-new vehicle that I assumed was in ‘perfect condition’.
Yep, that ruined the dealer experience, but it didn’t ruin the car.
It wasn’t fair.
Take a moment to think of a time when you had to just sit there and stew in your situation because it was beyond your control. How did you deal with it at the time? Could you have done anything differently? Did it work out in the end? Was it actually as big of deal you remember it being at the time?
I’ve eaten my share of worms, and as foul as they tasted, I had to learn, but sometimes I didn’t and that’s ok.