Just about every time I want to do just sit down on the couch or hop into bed to relax or de-stress, there is always a couple things that I forgot to do or put off right until the end of the day.
For example, last night while I was walking into the bedroom to get ready to hop into bed, I remembered that I forgot to move my car from the street to the driveway and put the garbage out for the following morning.
Of course I remember this is after I’ve locked up and shut down the house for the night.
My brother asked some questions about taking breaks from work on social media last week and it got me thinking about a few things: Why do I feel like I need to do my own thing? Why do I need to be my own boss? Why go through all the pain and extra work when I can just go and work for someone else and collect a paycheck?
The answer is time. It’s always been time and how I feel about it.
I want to be in control of my time and schedule.
At this point in my life, being in control of my time is the
most important thing. I’ve placed a huge measure of success on this one particular point.
I’m pretty sure I was at Grandma’s house the first time I drank coffee. I might have been five or six years old at the time. There were a few of us sitting around the table in the kitchen. So many good memories were made in that place. The last thing I remember someone saying before taking my first sip was something about my growth being stunted.
Everyone quietly and patiently waited my reaction. I must not have disappointed anyone because I remember the smiling faces which I can only now assume was amusement. I must have no doubt made the bitter-tasting facial expression then followed by the wide-eyed expression of “THAT’S REALLY GOOD!!” when the full bouquet of flavours had presented itself and ran its course. When I was a kid, this was the treat a grandma’s house: coffee or tea and coffee bulla (Pulla or Finnish Cardamom Sweet Bread).
I began drinking coffee regularly in high-school at maybe 14 or 15 years old; I didn’t have a driver’s licence yet. My group of friends tended to congregate at one coffee shop or another: Country Style, Robins Doughnuts, or Tim Hortons. All any of us needed to do was show up at some point after dinner and there would be someone to have a coffee, a smoke, and a conversation with. We’d spend hours there. Multiple coffees, overflowing ash trays, and stimulating conversations that made us not want to sleep.
I haven’t published anything in nearly three weeks. Sorry
for not letting you know what I was doing, that’s all on me.
I’ll be sure to make a post about any future hiatus the next
time around. Either that or I’ll have to prepare some content ahead of time to
keep you busy while I duck out the back for a break.
Here’s the scoop.
I decided that I wasn’t going to publish anything or engage
in social media while I was prepping to be and while I was away from home for a
few weeks. A week with the family and a couple
weeks for work plus the travel time.
Just three days before I was scheduled to travel, my work plans
fell through, so I decided to spend more time with the family and just take a
I haven’t worked in that industry since February and to be honest,
I didn’t really want to do that work again anyways. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise?
I agreed to the work trip because I need top up the bank
account again, and I still do because as fun and personally rewarding being a
new content creator is, it doesn’t pay the bills yet.
When I sent the confirmation email for the work trip
something happened to my thought process. Pressing the send button for email was
like flipping a switch back into my old stressed-out rat-race lifestyle.
It felt like what I’ve been doing for the past four months
was instantly deprioritized and didn’t matter anymore and all that mattered was
making money again. This is why I didn’t publish anything the Saturday or
Sunday before left to spend time with the family.
It was such a strange feeling because everything that I had created
up to that point had such an enormous value to me, and it still does. I even made a point to save all the money I
could from my last work trip so I could concentrate on learning about writing
and recording and streaming and not have worry about where the money was going
to come from.
I’m invested enough into what I’ve learned this year that I
want to keep doing it. I want to be in
the business of helping people, not just being a cog in a giant business
machine. I want to feel like I’m actually in business for myself and not just a
Mind you, being a cog in the machine isn’t a bad thing
either. It has so many positives that I sometimes
wonder why I even bother trying to make my own way at all. But, I always end up back at the exact same
point of being burned-out and resentful of having my time taken advantage of, because
when I’m a cog in the machine, all I’m selling is my time. Enough with that.
I’ve never been able to fully figure out the work-life
balance idea either because I don’t think my gears ever stopped turning; this
is the curse or superpower of an ever-curious mind. Even when I’m out having
fun or doing nothing at all sitting on the couch unmotivated, there is always
something stirring in the background.
I’m a maker of things at heart and I’ve always enjoyed helping
people fix their stuff or make that custom thing they need.
It’s always been the side hustle that’s brought me the most
Most of the time it’s something that needs to be welded, fabricated,
or wired, which is cool because I love doing that kind of work.
I think I should do this more seriously and make it the topic
of my content in the future.
Want to hear about the welding repair I’m going to finish up
this morning on an oil tank for a Lamborghini, and the installation of new wiring
system for a 1967 Chevrolet Camaro that I’ll be installing this afternoon?
Welcome to Fit Friday, where I write about a health topic, tell you about the progress in my personal health and fitness journey, what I’m doing at the gym, and some of the meals I’m planning on eating next week. If you’ve been reading my health blogs so far, the format should be familiar to you already.
Today I’m going to write about my progress so far and reflect on each of the times I saw significant weight-loss progress in my current health and fat-loss journey.
I sat down to write about what’s been on my mind the past
few days and I ended up writing down my daily schedule which I guess sounds a
bit odd, but when I make my own schedule for things it’s a really good idea to
have what I’m supposed to do with my time planned out or else I’d just end up just
entertaining myself all day instead of doing something productive.
Of course, sometimes making these sorts of plans is a futile
effort because, well life happens, and other stuff will get prioritized.
If time is our utmost finite resource, what we do with it should
be very important and wasting time should be avoided at all cost. You need to
be in control of your time to do that.
The piece of wisdom that I want to share with you today is “Do
the best you can with what you have”.
I can’t remember how many times I’ve had to improvise to accommodate
how I do things in order to complete a project.
It’s usually not having the right tool for the job, or maybe
using a material that is sub par.
Whatever situation you’re in that is less than ideal, try to
make do with you what you have available.
Use your experience, creativity, and resourcefulness to work
For instance, having to cut a straight line without a table saw
or a round hole without a radius jig.
Maybe the person who you normally use for a particular task
that you’re relying on isn’t available and they’ve sent you ‘the new guy’.
The onus is on you to complete the task so sometimes you have
to jump in to pick up the slack or keep a closer eye on the quality of work and
direct as need be.
Or maybe you forgot that the gym isn’t open on the statutory
holiday and you need to get your workout in. Time to improvise and use physics
to your advantage: stuff can get really heavy with the proper leverage.
Whatever it is that you have to deal with, get creative and
work the problem.
Every time you’re in a situation that requires this type of
thinking and action, the experience you
gain will allow you to be better prepared for next time. Rest assured that it will happen again.
Thanks for reading (or listening) and have a great day!